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But unless leaders examine their own motives—and those of their confidants—these relationships will almost certainly be dangerous, and sometimes even catastrophic. The CEO is often the most isolated Horny swingers Albertville protected employee in the organization.
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These confidants rarely make the headlines, but behind the scenes they do enormous damage to the CEO and to the organization as a whole. The author has identified three types of destructive confidants.
And the usurper cunningly ingratiates himself with the CEO in a desperate bid for power. This article explores how the CEO—confidant relationship plays out with each type of adviser and suggests ways CEOs can avoid these destructive relationships. No one gives Very kinky Taranto wanting unfiltered information. Many people dissemble or conceal things from him. Few leaders, even veteran CEOs, can do the job without talking to someone about their experiences, which is why most develop a close relationship Adult want sex Bunch a trusted colleague—a person with whom they feel free to share their thoughts and fears.
But in business and politics, most leaders rely on the advice and opinions of a trusted insider: a confidant.
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Unfortunately, almost as many confidants end up hurting, undermining, or otherwise exploiting CEOs when they are at their most vulnerable. These confidants rarely make the headlines, but behind the scenes they do enormous damage to the CEO and to the organization.
Dangerous confidants come in all shapes and sizes. They are sometimes intentionally scheming and deceitful. Like Rasputin, the crafty manipulator of the Russian imperial family, these overtly bad confidants have sociopathic personalities: They habitually lie and cheat to achieve their aims without any apparent constraints of conscience. Ladies seeking nsa Maben Mississippi 39750 have changed the names in our examples to protect the privacy of the individuals and companies depicted.
The CEO of a privately held real estate business in the Midwest, a company worth billions, Anderson fell victim to just such a confidant. Although Anderson was in most respects a highly effective CEO, he had never seriously contemplated the prospect of retiring.
Consequently, he had never set in place an adequate succession plan. Given the toxic confidant that he was, Mayer used the lack of succession planning as an opportunity to advance his own interests. Rather than encourage Anderson to slow down after he was hospitalized for chest pain, Mayer egged Anderson on in a way calculated to make him more anxious Just trying to meet a nice girl afraid.
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When Anderson stepped down, he impulsively handed the reins of power to Mayer. Shocked by the announcement of the new CEO, several key members of the management team stormed out in protest. Destructive confidants like Mayer are far more commonplace than we would like to believe. These confidants have blind spots about their own personalities and capabilities, and little awareness of the damage they can cause.
I have been able to identify three distinct types of destructive confidants over the course of my work. Then, as we have just Oakland casual encounters in the example, there is the usurper, the confidant who cunningly ingratiates himself with the CEO in a desperate bid for Adult wants real sex Airway Heights.
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To find out if you are getting trapped in a poisonous relationship with a trusted adviser, look for these warning s:. But some CEOs constantly need to be told wonderful things about themselves.
Typically, these leaders are both grandiose and extremely vulnerable to slights, and they often have a hard time hearing bad news or facing harsh realities. They surround themselves with yes-men who are unwilling to tell them the truth; these leaders also tend to have failed marriages, trophy wives, or extramarital affairs with women who feed their egos. Unfortunately, these leaders are also prone to selecting confidants who Black girl massage Springfield Illinois hardware to their fragile self-esteem.
These are the reflecting confidants.
The reflector intuitively knows how to make a narcissistic CEO feel good. Although all confidants may do this to some extent, reflectors are driven by their own neurotic need to please authority.
These kids feel that they exist to take care of their parents, rather than the reverse. One confidant told me that the first thing he did each morning with his mother, a former actress, was to scrutinize her face to see if she was having a bad day. If she was, he used to take it as a al that Horny girls Paris needed to find some good news quick. As a confidant, he was equally terrified of angry outbursts on the part of his CEO. Like other reflectors, this confidant was extremely sensitive to the limited range of emotion that a fragile CEO could tolerate, and he twisted himself into knots trying to avoid upsetting him.
In extreme forms, the CEO—confidant pair ends up creating its own distorted version of reality, or shared madness. Consider what happened at Regal Software, a developer of video gaming technology. In reality, though, Rothberg was his only client.
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Rothberg would call Jordan twice a day; he also made frequent visits to his office at Regal. It soon became clear to other employees how much the embattled CEO depended on his new confidant. For his part, Jordan was seduced into believing that nothing was more important for him to do than to keep the CEO happy.
To outsiders, they looked like coconspirators who spent endless hours huddled in conversation. Indeed, Jordan How to find free sex in sydney Rothberg constant reassurance that he was doing the right thing, when, in fact, Rothberg was gravely misguided. Rothberg had looked to Jordan to be his eyes and ears, but the more Jordan was drawn into his privileged role, the more unable he was to accurately understand the situation unfolding around him.
A vicious circle ensued, fueling the polarization of employees into Rothberg loyalists or enemies. For his part, Jordan had squandered his reputation as an independent expert. Lingering suspicions and resentments prevented him from functioning effectively as an outside consultant, and he, too, was eventually forced out.
While the reflector inadvertently s with the CEO in creating a shared, distorted view of reality, the insulator tries to serve as a mediator between an ill-suited CEO and his organization. CEOs who need insulators tend to be frustrated or abusive leaders. These arrogant leaders often deny the negative impact of their personality on those around them.
They thoughtlessly push away their best people, make impulsive business decisions, alienate large constituencies within the company, and poison morale. These confidantes quickly find themselves at odds with their subordinates, senior executives, and boards because of their lack of emotional intelligence. And whether they are quietly off-putting or openly hostile, these leaders rarely feel concerned about, or able to, change their interpersonal style.
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And although they typically harbor no ambitions to be CEOs themselves, insulators crave control over both the leader and the organization. That contrasts with reflectors, who unconsciously try to control leaders by pleasing them.
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The problem is that over time, insulators undermine the very authority of the leader they are seemingly trying to protect. Senior executives learn that to get anything substantive done, they Swingers Personals in Keithsburg go through the insulating confidant, who quickly comes to be seen as the real power behind the throne.